We promised you an update on how we’re going to grow our family…and here it is!
Adam and I are adopting a set of embryos!
For some context, let me first explain what embryo adoption is. Many families who have completed growing their family through IVF have remaining frozen embryos. Rather than destroying them or donating them to science, families have the option of donating them for adoption. These frozen embryos are made available to families like Adam and I who are struggling to naturally conceive. When the adoption is finalized, adoptive families have full, legal custody of these little embryos and begin the work of organizing a Frozen Embryo Transfer (FET). Depending on a number of different factors, a group of embryos are then transferred into the adoptive mother’s womb and then you wait hoping and praying that at least one little embryo begins to form into a baby. If you’d like to read more about embryo adoption, you can go here.
I’m sure there are a number of questions floating around in your head. Why embryo adoption? What about IVF or even a more traditional adoption? How likely is it to really work? You said you’re adopting a “set of embryos”? Is this a cost effective way to grow your family?
Without getting in to too much detail, here’s the Reader’s Digest version:
Why embryo and not tradition adoption? Because it allows us the gift of experiencing pregnancy and welcoming an infant into the world, something we’ve longed for and dreamt of since before we were married.
Why not IVF? Because we don’t feel comfortable with the possibility of making an excess of embryos that we would be forced to destroy because we can’t internationally ship them from Mauritius.
How likely is it to really work? Each embryo has between at 35-45% chance to making it. That’s why they’ll transfer between 2-3 embryos into me at a time.
What do you mean by “set of embryos”? Because we will transfer multiple embryos into my womb at a time hoping at least one will become a baby, we’re planning to adopt a set of embryos from the same genetic family. This will allow us, hopefully, the opportunity to be parents to more than one precious kid!
Is this cost effective? Surprisingly, embryo adoption is significantly cheaper than both IVF and traditional adoption. Adam and I do incur some additional costs with living internationally (like 2 round trip flights home for the transfer), but it’s still well below what we would pay for a traditional adoption.
So where does that leave us today? As of today, we’ve completed a huge task: Our Home Study. We and our house have been deemed fit to become parents. Yay! We’re now on track to being matched with a genetic family, finalizing the legal paperwork once we’re matched and getting my body ready for the transfer.
There’s simply one thing standing in our way: Money.
Over the years of trying to conceive, Adam and I saved money to have a baby. When we dove into the adoption process, that money gave us the opportunity to make it through the application and home study process without pulling from savings. We have since used all the money we were saving. Currently we’re researching and applying for any grant we’re eligible for and hope to raise some of the money that way. We were also encouraged by friends and family to start a YouCaring site. If you’d like to give anything towards helping us with our adoption, we would be humbled and extremely thankful. You can find our YouCaring site by clicking on the picture below.
As with this whole process, it’s a journey. We expect bumps along the way. There will be hard days and fun days. But in the end, we’re believing that we’ve been directed by God towards this kind of adoption and that He will remain faithful to our family.
You’ll know more as we do. For now, thank you for the outpouring of love since the last blog post and thank you for loving our family through the journey!