• Recipe & How-to-do: Chicken Butter Masala

    30/08/2025 /

    Finally the post of my delicious chicken butter masala is here!

    A small backstory about my own chicken butter masala recipe. M and I went to an Indian restaurant (M is Indian), and I can’t have such strong food due to me having gallstones. It was pretty spicy, but I could eat it. I was hooked on this dish and couldn’t wait to have it the next time.

    At home, I had to do it! I had to master the art of making my own Chicken Butter Masala dish. 

    I had to think differently, though. My son. With him being selective on food and stuff, I had to adjust the recipe, but oh my god, how good it was! Honestly, better than the restaurants 😅

    I added my own ingredients in it for myself but had a separate pot for my son (who doesn’t eat mushrooms and onions).

    Pictures above show what I used and so on.

    the ginger & garlic paste I used

    Ingredients
    1 Yellow Onion
    2-3 pieces of chicken breasts
    5 – 10 Mushrooms (depending how much you want)
    5DL cooking cream (I prefer the one from Lidl)
    1/2 teaspoon Ginger & Garlic paste

    Spices
    Garam Masala, Haldi (Turmeric), Black Pepper, Fries spices

    How-to step-by-step
    1. Start by cutting the onions and mushrooms and adding them to separate bowls.
    2. Cut the chicken into pieces and put them in a separate bowl.
    3. Add the spices to the chicken and mix around.
    4. Fry the onions till they are golden. Use extra butter when frying
    5. Add the onions back to the bowl
    6. Take the butter the onions were fried in and add it back to the frying pan.
    7. Add the mushrooms and fry until golden in color.
    8. Add them also back to their bowl
    9. Use the butter from the onion and mushroom and fry the chicken.
    10. Add more spices to the chicken while frying to have the flavor you wish for. The heat.

    After you have fried the chicken, you add the onions into the pan and stir around. Add cooking cream (2.5 dl) and stir around. Here comes the fun part! Add more spices into the pan and stir around. Taste each time you add to find your perfect flavor.

    Let it cook for 15 minutes on medium-high and lower the heat to medium-low for another 10 minutes. Add the mushrooms when there are 10 minutes left.

    Serve with rice & tortilla/naan bread.

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  • How to Overcome Your Fear of the Dentist: A Step-by-Step Guide

    08/08/2025 /

    (scroll down if you just wanna read the guide)

    Hello, my loves! I know the blog is a bit quiet now, but I promise it will get better! I will try to make at least one post per day, and if I do more posts, that will be a bonus. Haha!

    Apparently I had an appointment at the dentist today. So I had to rush to the bus after I discovered the text message (apparently I had read it before, but it had completely gone out of my head).

    I was in time thought! Luckily the bus wasn’t late and this time I almost ran to the dentist. lol!

    I walked in just my socks when I went to the dentist. Many people were looking at me, but like I have said before, I dislike wearing shoes and socks during summers, but due to the fact I have diabetes, I must wear at least socks.

    The visit went well! I have a phobia of the dentist, but the woman I had today was super careful and gentle. Which is very appreciated! She told me every step, and I am going back on September 10th to talk to another dentist about a mouth guard for the teeth.

    My jaw locks up (which the woman felt today and got scared when I “cracked” it back) and I explained to her that it happens often plus I get so much pain in my jaw and up towards head so she recommended a mouth guard but first I had to do an evaluation and see what they say.

    Hopefully I can get one but honestly, im scared of it.

    Reason? Because I had one before when I was 16 or something. Had it on one night, and the day after I woke up completely deaf in my right ear. We also had to use forks to get the mouth guard off because it was so darn tight and awful to try to get off.

    That’s why I am scared of getting a new one. What if I wake up deaf again? I don’t know how to read lips or how to do sign language.

    Has that ever happened to you or anyone you know? Maybe not using a mouth guard, but all of a sudden became deaf.

    I was deaf for a month, and it was so horrible. Today I have sound reduction (is that the word?), and I am sensitive to loud noises/sounds. It’s pretty hard for me to go to public places, for example, when there’s a lot going on.

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    How to Overcome Your Fear of the Dentist: A Step-by-Step Guide

    For me to get over the fear of going to the dentist is a challenge.

    1. Do not cancel the appointment!
    2. When you meet your dentist it is very IMPORTANT to let them know why you are scared
    3. Talk to your dentist and come up with an agreement on how the visit will go. Want the dentist to explain every step? Or you want the dentist to just do the work and be quiet?
    4. Work out together with a sign for them to stop if it becomes too much for you
    5. Remember to BREATHE! Deep breathing!
    6. Music (or if you prefer audiobooks or podcast!)! If that doesn’t work, listen to music! They are very accepting for a patient to listen to music in headphones / ear buds while being there.
    7. Sunglasses! I know this one is weird but trust me on this. I ALWAYS wear sunglasses on at the dentist to make it more “calm”. No harsh lights and you can actually close your eyes and just listen to the music/podcast/audio book

    If this doesn’t help you and ease up the tension and feelings when visiting the dentist. You can always ask for “relative analgesia,” which is the name of “happy gas.”

    You can also take some sort of medication that helps you with the anxiety and helps you to remain calm.

    You can also plan in advance with your dentist about your fear, how you react, etc., and come up with a plan to maybe go under anesthesia when visiting. Sure, that has to happen at the hospital, though. (My son went under anesthesia when he had to go to the dentist and let them have a real checkup).

    PRACTICE! Make a plan with your dentist to visit them every 3 months or so to practice and work on your fear. (My son goes twice a year to get used to going to the dentist and to train on how it works, what happens, etc). They are not impossible.

    Always have a  conversation with them. Be honest. Ask for tips, tricks, and ideas.

    Good luck! And remember, there’s nothing wrong with being scared of the dentist. Many are!

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  • A Good Communication With People For Your Autistic Child. Super Important!

    03/08/2025 /

    With an autistic child comes challenges but that doesn’t stop us.

    My son wanted to go to the grocery store so off we went. Social training for him is extremely important after the preschools he has attended isolated him completely from other children etc so now we are working hard so he can be accepted by the society and to make him (most important) to grow up to a wonderful man.

    We do not only social training around people. We also train and learn about safety when walking outside. To look at both ways before crossing the road. To stay aware of the surroundings and people.

    We also do daily activities at home such as learning how to learn to clean, how to do laundry, do the dishes and sometimes how to make dinner/lunch (Only stir though. I’m still scared when it comes to the stove and oven).

    My son is obsessed with laundry machines and can almost move to the laundry room just to sit infront of them and look.  He knows how to load and unload, where and how much detergent to apply, how to start etc. He has grown so much as a person and embracing his abilities and be there as a support makes him more independent.

    Throw trash, grocery store & reward

    When we go to the store, we always throw trash (even if we dont have trash we go there) so he knows where to throw the trash correctly. Recycling and how it works.

    1 / throw trash

    2 / grocery store & remain calm

    3 / reward

    At the grocery store today he didn’t have a tough moment. It went on smoothly. No meltdowns, no nothing. I was so (still am!) proud. I dont know about you but when my son is calm, behaving and is kind he gets a reward. This time was an ice cream.

    Normally it is very loud noises, children screaming and alot of people so when E is in his zone to grab stuff and add in the cart, he don’t really see and is careful. I always apologize to people if accidents happen or if he isn’t careful. I also explain that he has autism and we are socializing training. 99.9% of the people is so understanding. Thank you so so much!

    I am also very strict on how to talk to people and how to respect everyone (even workers, doesn’t matter which job they have) so after we have paid (yes he pay with my card and learns that as well) and we exit the store, I always say “Bye! thank you!” and my son has heard me say that so many times so he tries to say the same (sometimes you can hear the words, sometimes its just the sound that you can make out what he is saying) thing as me. Today he actually said, clearly “Thank you so much!” and a woman with two children said “aaaw” and smiled.

    Everyone who works at the grocery store (and many in the area we live in) knows about my son, how he works, how to handle situations with me if it gets too much. I have explained everything and they are so understanding (the staff at the store).

    When E said “thank you so much”, the woman in check out got so excited and happy so she said “you are so welcome E!” . That makes my heart so happy. The acceptance,  the understanding and that they have heard plus seen how everything works.

    I am grateful that I moved here. Sure the preschool was awful for my son but after he started school, he has grown so much. If we lived where we did before, this development would never have happened.

    Mind you that not every time goes wonderful. sometimes it’s completely horrible, I’m not gonna lie and sugar coat things. Sometimes E has ran out from the store with items when he has been super overwhelmed with emotions and it has been too much for him. The staff is understanding and is OK that those situations happens. They know I always pay, either the same day later (depending what the time is during the day) or the day after. I always call when I come home after situations like that and tell them what items was taken and when I’ll come to the store and pay. The fact that they trust me so much makes me forever feel grateful for them. I also always take pictures of the items or video where I explain what happened and which items it is. Never had a problem and the “team work” between us and the staff is amazing.

    I am so happy and proud of myself that I took the decision to move from our old place to this new home.

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