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› Glimpses of my weekend
Glimpses of my weekend – week 20 {may 15-17}
Another weekend has come to an end and oh boy, has it been a roller-coaster of emotions, moments and thoughts.
Friday ; E didn’t have any school {only the after-school school thing} and when he came home, we went on a car ride. Just, to go for a ride and change environment for a bit. Well, see something else.
Sunset. Not fall. Saturday; unfortunately, the bug found us. The sick bug. We had a calm day. Had to go to the store, though, and E had a face mask on. No gems were escaping—have no fear! A face mask is here to protect everyone. Lol!
Sadly we had to go to the store three times , yes you read correctly. Every time, E had a facemask on and we kept distance from everyone. When chrck out, E stood at the end of the checkout so i could pay etc with no worries for anyone
Don’t worry {we kept distance. E had face mask and I barely spoke}
Round one; carrots (for me. Weighloss), bread, roasted onions (for E and his stomach) and Pepsi Max. As usual. We also bought an ice cream to E.
Round two; bananas.
I made a smoothie with passion fruit, strawberries, blackberries, mango and raspberries. Oh my. It was sound so I had to add a pinch of sugar in it. I didn’t like that I had to add some sugar so.. I decided I needed bananas. So off we went again. Additional on shopping; chocolate.
So bright.
Round three ; package.
We came home from round two, and we were sitting in the living room. Me checking my phone, noticing the post office app, and remembering I had a package to get. So off we went. I even joked with E, saying, “What you don’t have in your head, you surely have in your legs, but now we can’t come back for a fourth time. Three times is enough.”
At home again sadly E threw up again. So back to the couch and blankets.
Sunday ; staying home & bubbles
Today we have been home, chilling. Although we had to go to the store once to buy French fries and bread..again.
I finally remembered that I bought E a new bubble machine when his broke, so today he got it and oh my, was it a hit!! He has emptied two cans of soapbubblesmix.
I also did a little DIY fix on my tripod. When I was going to fix it and put on the bag, I noticed the plate that holds the camera when using it was coming off, so I brought out the big guns ~ the box with all the screws. Unfortunately I only had a long one that fit the hole, but hey, at least I can use it now.
Photos from the weekend.
The bruise is after I smacked my knee in the livingroom table last Thursday (14th of May) and this is how it looks now.
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› Choose your battles.
Good morning, my beautiful people! I hope you all are doing well. I’m currently back home. Was supposed to get E to school, but he had tantrums outside, so he woke the neighbors, so they were looking through their blinds.
I finally managed to get us back home (tantrum for 40 minutes outside with no luck), so today he will be home from school. With lack of sleep and this morning, I can honestly say, I am tired.
Yes, I am keeping my life in the blog raw and authentic. I’m not going to sugarcoat the reality. I’m sharing my life because I know I have other autistic families who read the blog, and we know the struggles sometimes. Some days are good, and some days are a bit of a struggle. It’s the reality of a family with a person who has special needs.
So today will be a day to stay home. This has started to happen daily now, so I have notified the school what’s going on and that we will be at school when the situation is calm and better. They are ok with that. Sadly, today will be a stay-at-home day.
So this was my morning. How is your morning?
Choose your battles.
~ Unknown
No, I do not have pictures of the situation and what happened. My focus is to calm the situation, and taking photos/videos during a breakdown is nothing I do.
Reason for this morning’s meltdown: bus.My son loves busses and these mornings for the past few days has been very difficult. He wants to go for a ride in the buses, but we don’t need to take the bus to the school. The situation escalates every time, but what can I do? All I can do is handle the situations by remaining calm, try to calm down the situations, and keep my son safe.
“Autism doesn’t come with an instruction guide. It comes with a family who will never give up.”
~ Kerry Magro
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› Helpful tips; How I Calm My Autistic Child Down
Goodmorning all of you beautiful souls! I hope you all are doing good and that you have a calm and stress-free Sunday.
Today on my little agenda / planner it says self care, clean & pack son’s backpack for tomorrow.
Sundays for me is home spa day. Facial masks, hair mask, deep deeeeeep cleaning of my skin etc. I will also maybe dye my eyebrows, now I have no eyebrows – haha!
I will also try to start planning weekly dinners and become more productive with my life and get myself out of my bad mental health. babysteps though!
I do not drink coffee so my Pepsi max has to act like coffee for these pictures.
Raw and authentic
I’m keeping my blog raw, nothing is perfect in life. Having a child with special needs (I dont know how parents with children who dont have special needs lives so this is just my experiences) can make daily life a challenge. Before it complains about how the floor looks like, let me explain.
Due to the fact that my son is non-verbal (can not talk), his way of communication is showing things and try to say words but enlarge the words etc with signs. Him not being able to speak and express his feelings, wants and needs completely like other can makes him frustrated and sometimes he has tantrums and breakdowns which is super hard on him. My focus is to calm the situation down and to keep him safe.
The rooms etc with cleaning will come afterwards when the situation that had occurred is calm.
Today, this morning, E had one small moment when he tried to show me what he wanted and got frustrated. That’s why you can see some stuff on the floor. He throws stuff to make himself heard and understood.
and no, we dont not live filthy, dirty or any of that. Temporarily we have messy with stuff on floors but like I said, when moments and situations are calm I clean it.
Right now, I’m sitting down to breathe. To collect myself from the moment that happened. This is why my agenda / planner says cleaning.
If the moment didn’t occur, I wouldn’t need to clean.
Please don’t attack me / bash me/ insult me for how I handle things and how the living situations are temporarily when moments happen. My focus is to calm my child down and the whole situation.
How do I manage to calm E down when having tantrum/meltdowns?
Remain calm and I’m not gonna lie, sometimes it’s hard to stay calm and not stress out due to the neighbors but I manage to remain calm. Hugs, kisses, sitting down on the floor, safe hands works. Whisper in his ear that he is safe. That I understand, see and hear his feelings and that I am here with him.
Every parent handle situations differently, I know that and this works for us. Keep E safe and protected is all I care of.
Like Daniel Tiger in Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood sings “Take a deep breathe and breathe out”.
I sing multiple times of the day to remind E to breathe. I only sing/say the part “take a deep breathe” and he continues with “and breathe out”.
If you have a child/ren, how do you handle situations? No judging, no shaming. Accepting and Respecting only.
Remember to take a deep breathe, remain calm and handle the situation with love and understanding.