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› New start, new blog and a small introduction
EDIT: THE BLOG STARTS UNDER THIS POST! This is a “sticky note,” and I have now gotten help to import my other blog posts here from my old blog, so it isn’t empty!
(the rest of the journal post starts under this sticky note post)
Hey guys! I decided to make a completely new blog. Reason? So many reasons so I decided to make a whole new one. A fresh start. New start.
I will blog on this one from now on. I have bought a domain so I’m waiting on it to be active so this blog/corner/journal etc become more “real”.
For all new readers (maybe some are from my old blog), my name is E (will not write my whole name due to the restart of the blog) —goes by Mi. I’m 35 years old and I’m currently a Stay at home mom but studying on the same time.
In my little journal here i will have focus on lifestyle but will also share photos i have taken both of my regular life (moments etc) but also photos I have taken with my “professional” cameras – Canon. Yes I’m a photographer as well. So much!
I am very much into makeup and odd fashion so I will probably be showing that as well. By odd fashion I mean – all black, skulls, skirts etc. Think alternative / Gothic style.
I am also a plus size woman but is working on the weightloss so I will write a bit about that sometimes as well.
What I’ll not show in the blog is pictures of my son’s face. If I share, It will be either blurred or somehow not showing his face.
Like I said, this journal is focused on lifestyle and according to Google, this was a good name. Lol! So let’s see how it works.
Note; I am self-taught English so I apologize for wrong spellings, wrong grammar etc!
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› Helpful tips; How I Calm My Autistic Child Down
Goodmorning all of you beautiful souls! I hope you all are doing good and that you have a calm and stress-free Sunday.
Today on my little agenda / planner it says self care, clean & pack son’s backpack for tomorrow.
Sundays for me is home spa day. Facial masks, hair mask, deep deeeeeep cleaning of my skin etc. I will also maybe dye my eyebrows, now I have no eyebrows – haha!
I will also try to start planning weekly dinners and become more productive with my life and get myself out of my bad mental health. babysteps though!
I do not drink coffee so my Pepsi max has to act like coffee for these pictures.
Raw and authentic
I’m keeping my blog raw, nothing is perfect in life. Having a child with special needs (I dont know how parents with children who dont have special needs lives so this is just my experiences) can make daily life a challenge. Before it complains about how the floor looks like, let me explain.
Due to the fact that my son is non-verbal (can not talk), his way of communication is showing things and try to say words but enlarge the words etc with signs. Him not being able to speak and express his feelings, wants and needs completely like other can makes him frustrated and sometimes he has tantrums and breakdowns which is super hard on him. My focus is to calm the situation down and to keep him safe.
The rooms etc with cleaning will come afterwards when the situation that had occurred is calm.
Today, this morning, E had one small moment when he tried to show me what he wanted and got frustrated. That’s why you can see some stuff on the floor. He throws stuff to make himself heard and understood.
and no, we dont not live filthy, dirty or any of that. Temporarily we have messy with stuff on floors but like I said, when moments and situations are calm I clean it.
Right now, I’m sitting down to breathe. To collect myself from the moment that happened. This is why my agenda / planner says cleaning.
If the moment didn’t occur, I wouldn’t need to clean.
Please don’t attack me / bash me/ insult me for how I handle things and how the living situations are temporarily when moments happen. My focus is to calm my child down and the whole situation.
How do I manage to calm E down when having tantrum/meltdowns?
Remain calm and I’m not gonna lie, sometimes it’s hard to stay calm and not stress out due to the neighbors but I manage to remain calm. Hugs, kisses, sitting down on the floor, safe hands works. Whisper in his ear that he is safe. That I understand, see and hear his feelings and that I am here with him.
Every parent handle situations differently, I know that and this works for us. Keep E safe and protected is all I care of.
Like Daniel Tiger in Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood sings “Take a deep breathe and breathe out”.
I sing multiple times of the day to remind E to breathe. I only sing/say the part “take a deep breathe” and he continues with “and breathe out”.
If you have a child/ren, how do you handle situations? No judging, no shaming. Accepting and Respecting only.
Remember to take a deep breathe, remain calm and handle the situation with love and understanding.